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How to Find the Center

In math class, I remember learning different ways to find the center of a circle using just a piece of paper. I think I could reproduce the technique if needed, but it might take a few tries.

People’s center are a bit more difficult to find or identify, usually. Recently a friend of mine has been posting on Facebook as a close relative passed away. My friend’s center is built on his faith, and it is clear that he finds meaning in the world during difficult times (and other times, as well) through this well defined core.

My center is less well defined. I have, in different phases of my life, had it revealed or actively worked on it. Times of intense emotion often reveal it as a shadow cast on the wall by brilliant light. Raising children is an ongoing search for the center. Sometimes it eludes me, and sometimes I have moments of clarity.

Tuesday night, I came home from a fairly intense day at work to a quick hand-off as my wife was out the door to perform in the evening. This left me with two children who had little sleep the night before (a condition that led to me having not much sleep either), bath and bed to complete, and a real lack of reserves to get through the evening. This provided me an excellent opportunity to continue my search for my center, and amazingly I was up to the task. I remained calm and enjoyed my children’s company while still moving the process forward in a timely manner.

Here’s hoping, as I write this Tuesday night, that they don’t choose to test me by waking up and screaming!

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Busy and Tranquil

Today, one of my full days with the kids, was packed. I dropped my daughter off at preschool, did some work there attaching some blinds to a shelving unit, took my car to get some overdue emissions stickers updated, stopped by a bakery that I used to go to weekly when I worked at another school, rushed back to school to get my daughter, took a walk with the kids to the library and the local pasta store, made dinner, made bread, did laundry, handled the dinner/bath/bed routine solo, and more. Amidst all that, though, there were a few moments of calm. While the garage was working on my car, I took my son on a walk around a large lake/reservoir. There has been a significant amount of nature restoration on the lands surrounding the the water, and one side of the park, especially, is fairly shielded from traffic noise. He had his morning nap surrounded by cattails, lapping water, birds singing, and fresh air. In the afternoon upon our return from picking up my daughter, I took my son up for his afternoon nap and lay down on the couch. The sun was streaming in the windows, warming me and brightening the room. I awoke quite a while later. I feel like I accomplished enormous amounts today, but those breaks were vital to creating balance and not arriving at 9:00 feeling completely worn out.

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